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DP Couple Sessions - Ep. 1, De-Escalation Techniques
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DP Couple Sessions - Ep. 1, De-Escalation Techniques

When arguments heat up and voices rise, relationships suffer. In this essential episode of DP Couple Sessions, hosts Sarah and David explore the crucial art of de-escalation - learning how to step back from conflict before it damages the foundation of your partnership.

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Fight Smarter: How to Break Free from Toxic Argument Patterns in Your Relationship
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Fight Smarter: How to Break Free from Toxic Argument Patterns in Your Relationship

Tired of going in circles with your partner over the same arguments? This post breaks down why everyday conflicts, like being late, can spiral into emotional battles — and how to stop the cycle. Drawing on insights from Esther Perel, we explore the traps of confirmation bias, double standards, and “always/never” thinking, offering practical tools to help you fight smarter, not harder. If you’re ready to shift from blame to connection and make your relationship feel less like a battlefield, this one’s for you.

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Fixing negative patterns
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Fixing negative patterns

What does it really mean to heal? In this soulful conversation, Alain de Botton unpacks the roots of our inner critical voice, the struggle to connect with emotions, and why we get stuck in difficult relationships. A reflective and practical look at how healing helps us show up more fully—for ourselves and for others.

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It’s either simple, or it’s complicated
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It’s either simple, or it’s complicated

It’s either simple, or it is complicated. Some relationships need small adjustments, while others require deeper healing. The key is recognising what’s needed and committing to the process.

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New Year, New Us:
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New Year, New Us:

A new year offers couples a fresh start, but rigid resolutions can quickly lead to frustration. Setting intentions instead encourages mindfulness, flexibility, and mutual support, making it easier to stay motivated and grow together without unnecessary pressure.

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Techniques to prevent arguments from escalating
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Techniques to prevent arguments from escalating

In this post, we explore twelve essential strategies for preventing conflict escalation in relationships. From setting boundaries to practicing active listening, these techniques are designed to promote understanding and maintain a calm and respectful connection.

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How to Survive Summer Break: A Guide for Couples
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How to Survive Summer Break: A Guide for Couples

Navigating the Summer holidays as a couple can be challenging, but prioritizing open communication and shared activities can strengthen your bond. By balancing personal downtime with quality time together, you can turn potential stress into an opportunity for growth and connection.

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The Rebound Effect:
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The Rebound Effect:

Rebound relationships can offer a quick emotional band-aid post-breakup, but they often come with the risk of unresolved feelings complicating new connections. While they may provide temporary comfort, it's crucial to recognize when it's a genuine bond or just a distraction from healing.

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A glossary of non-monogamy terms
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A glossary of non-monogamy terms

Curious about non-monogamy but not sure where to start? My latest blog post offers a handy glossary to help you understand key terms and concepts, from polyamory and open relationships to swinging and relationship anarchy.

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Understanding Psychosexual Therapy:
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Understanding Psychosexual Therapy:

Psychosexual therapy focuses on resolving sexual problems and dysfunctions within a relationship, enhancing intimacy and satisfaction. Unlike regular couples therapy, it specifically addresses sexual issues to improve overall relationship health.

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Walking on Eggshells
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Walking on Eggshells

Walking on eggshells in a relationship signifies an unhealthy dynamic where one partner's controlling behavior creates constant anxiety and stress. While past traumas may influence behavior, they do not justify mistreatment or manipulation. Every individual deserves a relationship grounded in mutual respect and understanding, where personal well-being is prioritized.

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The anxious avoidant couple
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The anxious avoidant couple

Despite their seemingly opposite attachment styles, this pairing often occurs and can lead to a complex yet deeply transformative relationship.

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Divorce
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Divorce

The paradox of trust and betrayal lies at the core of intimate relationships. Trust, deeply entwined with love and commitment, harbors the risk of profound betrayal.

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Navigating Dating Apps
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Navigating Dating Apps

Dating apps are here to stay - and when you ask anybody about their experience with the apps, the consensus is that dating apps are a soul sucking experience. Esther Perel joins Call Her Daddy to discuss why dating apps leave us feeling bad about ourselves and how we can add some humanity back into the process.

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Podcast of the day
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Podcast of the day

This podcast episode offers valuable insights and practical tips towards an interesting approach on happiness

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In the red?
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In the red?

The concept of a "joint account of goodwill" is a useful way to think about the emotional bank account that exists between two people in a relationship.

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